"There's so many things that you can do with your life. It takes some time to settle on one dream and to think that that’s the only dream that you want to do with your life and pursue. You never know when you're walking towards your dreams and what doors will open. I’m a firm believer in, 'If that doors open, then walk in it.' Especially if you don’t know what other door will open because of that. Once you reach your dream, it doesn’t stop there. Don’t let pit stops or stop signs interrupt you from pursuing your dreams."
What was the first goal that you wanted to pursue?
My first goal was to become an attorney. I don’t know where that sparked from, but that was the beginning for me. I ended up going to college and getting a degree in legal communications and being a paralegal for six years. During the process, I always knew I was a very creative person, so I started my youtube channel. Not even knowing where that would go. That’s when I began to talk about my natural hair care journey, vlog about make-up, and share my family with the world. That’s when I realized it was a passion for me to just be who I am outside of “Vonnette, The Lawyer” or “The Paralegal.” After that, different doors opened and now I’m marketing and doing events, which I love! There’s so many different doors you can go through. You just have to have the courage to walk through and keep an open mind about all of the opportunities that can present themselves from you taking that chance.
Tell me a little bit about yourself.
I’m originally born and raised in Jamaica, then moved to New York at a young age. I lived on the East Coast, pretty much, most of my life. I went to college at Howard University. I graduated with a communications degree and ended up getting my first job at a litigations firm in Washington state. I worked there for about five or six years before moving here to California, where now I work as a Marketing Events Specialist. We do all marketing and campaigns for clients at the institution. We also do events like galas, women’s conferences, community events, symposiums and many more. So I’m normally very busy trying to juggle that along with being a social media influencer, vlogger, wife, mother of two. I like staying busy. I feel like time is very important and how you use it is very important, so I try to use it to the best of my abilities.
What do you feel most accomplished for in your life right now?
Being a mom. My husband and I had our experiences and time together when we got married, then decided to try for a child. I ended up getting pregnant for the first time with my first son. He ended up coming early, at 25 weeks, and only lived for two days. That was seriously the hardest experience of my life. It’s been a journey to not talk about this. I’ve held it in for a while, but I find comfort in talking about him because it keeps him real. But, yeah so after that I wanted to take a break from all of that and trying to be a mom, but ended up getting pregnant again fairly quickly after, with my son Judah. My kids are my heart. I live for them. I have my dreams and my goals, but at the end of the day, everything I do and pursue is for my kids. I want them to see that Mom did everything and nothing stopped her from accomplishing anything.
Are you open with your children about your first son?
Yeah! Both my son and daughter know that they have a brother. His picture is in our house. Judah is always like, “Well am I ever going to see him? Where is he at? Why is he not here?” And I just tell him that he’s not here right now, but one day we’ll see him again. They’re very much aware that they have a bigger brother, but they don’t know all of the details yet.
If you could change anything in your life what would it be and why?
I don't necessarily live in regret. I think that everything that happens in your life is for a purpose and it makes you stronger. You can learn from it, you can grow from it. You just have to think of every situation in a positive way and not a negative way.
What is your biggest goal in life, currently?
I think one of my biggest goals right now is to become a serial entrepreneur and also acting!
What is your favorite quote and why?
“All things through Christ who strengthens me.” I live by that, because if no one else believes in me, I can stand firm by the fact that Christ does. I feel like with anyone, you’re going to go through times where you’ll share your dreams with someone and they just don’t get it or just dont see it for you. Some people will quit just because of the words that others have put over them. Words are so powerful and sometimes they can stop you from going after things you really want. If you’re firm with who you are and you believe that Christ is there for you, you can keep going. One thing I love to do is just empower young women and just women in general. I try to encourage them to not let anything stop them. Don’t let people, words, nothing stop you. There is a beauty, strength, and purpose that is within us. If you know what it is or once you find that purpose, pursue it with your whole heart.
Another quote would have to be “Your dream is your reality in waiting.” I believe that that’s true. If you can dream it and act on it, then it will be your reality.
What advice would you give to a future girl boss trying to get into your field?
Start. Don’t think about it. Don’t wonder if it’s going to be successful and don’t question yourself. Find strength in your voice.
Who are some of your top style icons?
Yara! I am obsessed with her style. I feel like she does it SO well. I’m very fond of fashion bloggers that show that you can be stylish without showing everything. I feel like Yara has nailed that at such a young age. All of her styles are just trendy, elegant, and regal. There’s one more, Kahlana Barfield Brown, the editor of InStyle Magazine. I’ve been following her for a couple years now and I just love her style. I love different and I love elegant. If you can put those two styles together, then I think you’ve nailed it.
What are some of your fashion go-tos or staple pieces?
High waisted jeans, heels - ALWAYS and forever - I’m 5’2 so heels are a definite go to. I love dresses and anything with a type of texture or print to it, especially African prints.
By: Jen Joseph